1. When someone’s angry, do they mean what they say?
2. If they don’t, then how should one take the words?
3. If it’s insulting, then turn the other cheek, right?
4. What if they said something you suspected all along?
5. Can I take it as a confirmation of truth?
6. If they made a hurtful comment along your parenting ways, what can a person do?
7. I know if I had said the same thing to this person, he’ll just say I’ll have to do all the parenting myself now because heaven’s forbid that he should be acused of doing something wrong again.
8. I am very upset about it, and just want to quit.
9. After so many years, I have never thought of leaving, but I this is something different.
10. He said I’m a mean mother. I always put my children first. If I am a mean mother, then what am I doing here?
11. I always try to put my children out of harms way.
12. If he thinks I’m being harmful,
13. then it’s time to go, isn’t it?
Note: I don’t believe in spanking. I do raise my voice in frustration. When my children don’t clean up their mess, I demand they do it now. My husband thinks forcing the children to do it now is being mean and unfair. I have noticed though that it’s perfectly alright with him if my kids and him make all kinds of messes and I clean it up. Evidently, making sure the children do their chores is abuse for him. I have done no other mean things…except making sure they do their task.
Sounds like it’s time for a little solo vacation. If he has to clean up everything, maybe he’ll change his tune.
Alice Audreys last blog post..Thursday Thirteen #29: Reasons to Read Suzie’s House
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I think the time has come for him to play “Mr. Mom” for a while! (and yes, we ALL go through this at least once!)
Lauras last blog post..Thursday Thirteen #21
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Say hello to the meanest mother on the planet. Our children are grown and have familys of their own now, but back in the day, I was the mean one. Some of the evil I inflicted on my children included making them clean their rooms, make their beds, actually sit at the table and eat real food instead of candy and ice cream, and the wickedness inside me actually made them bathe on a regular basis and go to bed at a regular hour. And no, I didn’t have the support of my husband. Our children were adopted when they were eight and four years old, a boy and a girl and natural siblings to each other. My husband wanted to be the third playmate and thought he could buy their love by giving them everything they desired and by never correcting their behavior. All I can say is, just hang in there and keep being the “mean” mom. It sounds like you’re doing great, and as far as the hubby goes, just remember he’s a man and inside every man is a little boy who still wants mom to take care of him and clean up his messes.
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